Woman Crush Wednesday

For this Woman Crush Wednesday I would like to take a moment to swoon over someone that is simply incredible in every way! Being with Angela is the best decision I ever made!

I would like you all to read what someone said after stumbling on a website like this one: 

“I found this website last night after another tough discussion that occurs during hard times.

I have been struggling to give the requested affirmations when there are no reasons to give them.

If I have to 'hold her hand' through everything she needs to do when she used to be able to do them?

How can I praise her that she cycled 80 km today, when she would normally have done that 2 years ago, 30 minutes faster?

How can I praise that she had a good day at work when she puts herself down as 'only a music teacher'?

How can I compliment her on her house keeping when she doesn't do the job properly?

If I do the cleaning then it causes a fight because she thinks that is her job to do.

I have repeatedly over the years told her that she looks fine, looks great and dresses well. She feels that she has a huge tummy, a huge backside, and saggy breasts. Only so much complimenting and praise can be done before it is just echoing off the brick wall.

I imagine that some people have their spouses as a best friend, but then who can you talk to when you need to vent about your partners / wife / husband situation.

The 10 points above sound sickly sweet, written by somebody recently fallen in to love, I am not able to see how I can apply any of the above points honestly to my current situation.”

Here is a woman begging to be loved. Everyone is at different stages of their lives. Sometimes we regress and sometimes we are at the top of our game. I can tell that this guy feels his wife is a disappointment. What never changes on any given day of our lives is our need to have support and love. If we constantly feel like a disappointment we are going to always need reassurance. His attitude is propagating the very problem he is trying to fix. 

I am constantly finding out how lucky I am to have Angela. Our days are filled with magic and I never feel like she is disappointed in me.  The best part is I always feel constant support. So today I would like to celebrate the best person I have ever met, my one true love and wife Angela. The world is as dark as your perception allows it to be. Although we may be “sickly sweet” I wouldn't have it any other way.

You Look Fat In That!

I love to go shopping with my wife! There are few things that give me more joy than walking down every aisle of a store with her arm in arm sharing our thoughts on absolutely everything. So when she starts trying things on in the dressing room I, of course, want to tell her my thoughts on things.

If you are reading this and said UH OH! Don't do it!! It's a trap! You would not be alone. When I got married the number one advice that I got from everyone was "The wife is always right and say she looks great in whatever she puts on."  The reasoning for this of course is "Women are insecure and can't take the truth" But what if I told you that you could actually tell a women she looks bad and she not only would laugh it off but would love you more for it? Don't believe me? Keep reading.

Fist thing, women CAN and SHOULD be told the truth always! The most important quality shared by all healthy meaningful relationships is sincerity. If you both can't be sincere you should not be with them. And don't worry this post is not going to be about how to tell her she "looks like something you'd draw with your left hand" in a tactful way. It's about appreciating who she is and really paying attention to notice the details.

Even the women in my life would tell me it's "dangerous ground" to critique a woman's outfit, however I get away with it all the time. Here is the trick: it's not about what you want it's about what she wants. An outfit should be all about how a person feels in it and not how they look to others in it. The real key is to really appreciate and get to know her. If you know she hates orange and puts something on that's orange she will not mind you saying let's find something you may like even better! This is because she knows that you are going to take the time to find the perfect fit for her and you have shown that you care what will make her happiest.

Use every opportunity to remind who you're with why it is you love them. Likes and dislikes are part of who people are. I'm grateful every day that I get to know my wife more and have deeper more loving communication about all things.