You Look Fat In That!

I love to go shopping with my wife! There are few things that give me more joy than walking down every aisle of a store with her arm in arm sharing our thoughts on absolutely everything. So when she starts trying things on in the dressing room I, of course, want to tell her my thoughts on things.

If you are reading this and said UH OH! Don't do it!! It's a trap! You would not be alone. When I got married the number one advice that I got from everyone was "The wife is always right and say she looks great in whatever she puts on."  The reasoning for this of course is "Women are insecure and can't take the truth" But what if I told you that you could actually tell a women she looks bad and she not only would laugh it off but would love you more for it? Don't believe me? Keep reading.

Fist thing, women CAN and SHOULD be told the truth always! The most important quality shared by all healthy meaningful relationships is sincerity. If you both can't be sincere you should not be with them. And don't worry this post is not going to be about how to tell her she "looks like something you'd draw with your left hand" in a tactful way. It's about appreciating who she is and really paying attention to notice the details.

Even the women in my life would tell me it's "dangerous ground" to critique a woman's outfit, however I get away with it all the time. Here is the trick: it's not about what you want it's about what she wants. An outfit should be all about how a person feels in it and not how they look to others in it. The real key is to really appreciate and get to know her. If you know she hates orange and puts something on that's orange she will not mind you saying let's find something you may like even better! This is because she knows that you are going to take the time to find the perfect fit for her and you have shown that you care what will make her happiest.

Use every opportunity to remind who you're with why it is you love them. Likes and dislikes are part of who people are. I'm grateful every day that I get to know my wife more and have deeper more loving communication about all things.