Woman Crush Wednesday

For this Woman Crush Wednesday I would like to take a moment to swoon over someone that is simply incredible in every way! Being with Angela is the best decision I ever made!

I would like you all to read what someone said after stumbling on a website like this one: 

“I found this website last night after another tough discussion that occurs during hard times.

I have been struggling to give the requested affirmations when there are no reasons to give them.

If I have to 'hold her hand' through everything she needs to do when she used to be able to do them?

How can I praise her that she cycled 80 km today, when she would normally have done that 2 years ago, 30 minutes faster?

How can I praise that she had a good day at work when she puts herself down as 'only a music teacher'?

How can I compliment her on her house keeping when she doesn't do the job properly?

If I do the cleaning then it causes a fight because she thinks that is her job to do.

I have repeatedly over the years told her that she looks fine, looks great and dresses well. She feels that she has a huge tummy, a huge backside, and saggy breasts. Only so much complimenting and praise can be done before it is just echoing off the brick wall.

I imagine that some people have their spouses as a best friend, but then who can you talk to when you need to vent about your partners / wife / husband situation.

The 10 points above sound sickly sweet, written by somebody recently fallen in to love, I am not able to see how I can apply any of the above points honestly to my current situation.”

Here is a woman begging to be loved. Everyone is at different stages of their lives. Sometimes we regress and sometimes we are at the top of our game. I can tell that this guy feels his wife is a disappointment. What never changes on any given day of our lives is our need to have support and love. If we constantly feel like a disappointment we are going to always need reassurance. His attitude is propagating the very problem he is trying to fix. 

I am constantly finding out how lucky I am to have Angela. Our days are filled with magic and I never feel like she is disappointed in me.  The best part is I always feel constant support. So today I would like to celebrate the best person I have ever met, my one true love and wife Angela. The world is as dark as your perception allows it to be. Although we may be “sickly sweet” I wouldn't have it any other way.

You Look Fat In That!

I love to go shopping with my wife! There are few things that give me more joy than walking down every aisle of a store with her arm in arm sharing our thoughts on absolutely everything. So when she starts trying things on in the dressing room I, of course, want to tell her my thoughts on things.

If you are reading this and said UH OH! Don't do it!! It's a trap! You would not be alone. When I got married the number one advice that I got from everyone was "The wife is always right and say she looks great in whatever she puts on."  The reasoning for this of course is "Women are insecure and can't take the truth" But what if I told you that you could actually tell a women she looks bad and she not only would laugh it off but would love you more for it? Don't believe me? Keep reading.

Fist thing, women CAN and SHOULD be told the truth always! The most important quality shared by all healthy meaningful relationships is sincerity. If you both can't be sincere you should not be with them. And don't worry this post is not going to be about how to tell her she "looks like something you'd draw with your left hand" in a tactful way. It's about appreciating who she is and really paying attention to notice the details.

Even the women in my life would tell me it's "dangerous ground" to critique a woman's outfit, however I get away with it all the time. Here is the trick: it's not about what you want it's about what she wants. An outfit should be all about how a person feels in it and not how they look to others in it. The real key is to really appreciate and get to know her. If you know she hates orange and puts something on that's orange she will not mind you saying let's find something you may like even better! This is because she knows that you are going to take the time to find the perfect fit for her and you have shown that you care what will make her happiest.

Use every opportunity to remind who you're with why it is you love them. Likes and dislikes are part of who people are. I'm grateful every day that I get to know my wife more and have deeper more loving communication about all things. 

WE ARE HOME OWNERS!

Angela and I did it! We have come so far from staring up at the ceiling of our empty apartment dreaming that we could afford our next rent check. No longer will we be throwing money away in the form of rent! We have hoped for the best and planned for the worst for so long it seems unreal that our dreams are coming true. It is truly an incredible feeling!!

I'm freaking out over this totally "adult" feeling of this huge decision! Angela and I made this thoughtfully together for years saving and looking. All we saw was that economic circumstances seemed not to be in our favor. Buying a home is one of life's most special experiences and we have been determined to make it happen. Now that it is from going house hunting to choosing the furniture, every step has been exciting! And now our voracious unbridled passion for decorating has started!

I can't stop thinking of all the possibilities down the line this opens for our family.

Even with our plan of saving and looking all the time economic circumstances seemed not to be in our favor. Anyone in the market knows house prices keep going up and interest rates started to go up with the election over. We found our dream home at the price we wanted at the perfect time for interest rates! And now we can experience the joy of never having to see a landlord again!

But more than anything I love my wife more than possessions or owning a house. I'm so grateful that we are so well off right now but when I look at Angela I know that I always have been.

Balloon Fiesta Adventure

This last weekend we went on a super amazing road trip to New Mexico for the Albuquerque Balloon Fiesta! First, we went to the Grand Canyon and it was just as majestic as I remembered it. You never get used to the wonder of the Grand Canyon. It was nice just to dream together looking down at the canyon as if we were looking up at the stars. It's so nice to have someone you love spending time with.

On our way out of Grand Canyon National Park we stopped by Horseshoe Bend and snapped this photo.

Even though the Grand Canyon is amazing it was not the main event of this trip. But before we got to Albuquerque for the largest balloon show on earth we had to make one more stop. We were able to put our feet down on the Four Corners monument! So many bucket list items were checked off on this trip it's unreal!

Exploring with Angela is really like the John Denver song - You Fill Up My Senses. So relaxing and always just what I need.

Living life is nothing without the feelings associated with each thing you do. Each emotional state or reaction the world gives can be magical if you take the time to truly feel each thing you do. Simply being with Angela magnifies these experiences. Every adventure we go on seams to turn out perfectly. I mean just look at this picture of me "holding" a penguin balloon. Balloons of all shapes and sizes were everyone, the chances of this one coming down at just the right time to get this photo... It's just as magical and unbelievable as everything having to do with Angela. 

We arrived at the balloon fiesta at 4:30am Saturday the first and watched the Mass Ascension. We watched as the balloons glowing from the fire that lifts them got closer to the clouds that were illuminated by shades of every color of the sun rise. The pure scope and magnitude of this experience overwhelms the senses. And then before we knew it the sun was up and the balloons filed the entirety of the sky. Even this photo Angela took cannot do this experience justice.

I hope we can go back soon. But more than that I can't wait for our next adventure together! Oh and I almost forgot, we got to go in an ice cave too!

My Wife is Better Than Yours

A relationship is a living breathing entity. A flame fueled by uncontrollable desire. There is no wonder that romance is normally separated from the brain to the heart. I used to think this was because love is irrational, governed by hormones, and never to be understood by logical assertions. This is however not the case.

Who here reading this can say honestly that they feel passionately desired in their relationship?

I love Angela so much and I never want her to feel I'm taking her for granted.  It's a daily battle that is worth every second spent on it. Angela asked me last night with her puppy dog eyes "why are so many relationships falling apart around us?" I knew that she was not only sad for others but also afraid because she loves me so much and doesn't want to lose me. I replied, "They don't have one thing we have" which she asked "what is that?" I replied, "A GREAT BIG BUSHY BEARD!"

But her question did get me thinking. So to the men reading this: You need to make her feel desired. She wants to know you feel she's the best. And I'm not just talking about the best wife. I'm talking about the best mom, the best lover, the best looking, and the best at knowing your heart. If you say another woman is the "best" in any way she WILL notice. You may think "Oh, well I don't have a jealous woman this doesn't apply to me"-- IT DOES! It's not a jealousy thing it's not even a self-esteem thing. It's the way she connects herself to you. By showing her that you know she's the best makes her feel desired.

When is the last time your partner has shown or told you that you are special to them or cherished? 

Feeling desired is relationship oxygen. We need to feel the relationship, being married isn't enough. You have to prove that you're married every day. It's said that "true love is not found, it's built". Never stop building. Make clear your intentions to love your spouse forever and keep clarifying! This goes a long way. We all have anxiety and we all have fear but passion is a driving force. It keeps us going in a world that tends to pull us apart. When people don't feel desired in a relationship they start questioning why they are even in it. I never want our relationship to get to that point.

Surprise Date!

This is a guest post by my wife, Angela -

Yesterday I got to go out on a surprise date. The fact that I was going on a date wasn’t a surprise but the activity certainly was! Sadly for Seani I am really good at figuring out surprises even with almost no clues. Seani has to be super secretive about surprises or I can figure out what we’re doing by what kind of shoes I should wear and the direction we drive on the freeway. My problem is that I pay attention to EVERYTHING. Even if Seani mentions something in passing months before the actual date, I will remember and figure it out.

When we leave work, all I know is to bring a jacket and that we’re going to LA. On the way, I needed to stop by the store and my phone was almost dead so I instinctively pick up Seani’s phone to look up directions. I forgot there could be spoilers on the phone and I see the destination, the El Capitan Theater. I tried so hard to not find out and I start having a battle in my head. Should I tell Seani that I saw? Should I just pretend like I didn’t see and act surprised? Eventually I just blurt it out because I’m really bad at lying. Seani smiled, “I knew you’d see it.” Meanwhile I’m like “Why did you have it up?!” only to find out that it was on purpose. It actually was not our destination, just near it. Seani threw me off on purpose. Good one. You got me.

We get to the parking structure and I still don’t know what we’re doing. We walk up some exterior stairs to the rooftop of a building. It’s an outdoor movie theater. We get our headphones and blankets and head to our seats. As we wait for the movie to begin, I take in the nearby sights of LA and we talk about the buildings we can see from the roof. At this point there’s nothing to indicate what movie is playing. Seani hands me a bag of Reese’s Pieces. I love anything Reese’s. They make such good candy. I take this as a sign that Seani’s just being attentive to which candies I like.

The movie begins. It’s E.T. For anyone who hasn’t seen the movie, Reese’s Pieces are the candy that are featured towards beginning of the movie. It was fun to snack on Reese’s Pieces while seeing them on screen. All in all it was a perfect night getting to be in the big city, under the night sky, and getting to be cozy with the one you love and blankets watching a great movie.

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A few weeks ago, Seani, Angela, Afra and I went on a girls day out to Solvang. I love Solvang, and I can say the biggest reason I love it there is the first time I ever went there was with Seani! Seani definitely knows the cool things to do there. I drove over to Seani and Angela's apartment at around 11am and the first thing I noticed was Angela's outfit. She was wearing a mustard yellow sweater with penguins on it, rubber yellow boots, and she even had a penguin umbrella to match her sweater and it was thoroughly adorable. We went and picked up Afra, who I had met once before and was excited to get to know a little better.

The drive out was beautiful and followed the ocean for most of the way there. Our first stop was one of my favorite places that I remember from the last time we went out there. We took a short hike on a beautiful trail to Nojoqui falls. The hike there takes about 20 minutes, is covered in poison oak, and has no water due to the drought - but it's very green and beautiful! My favorite part is when Angela took out her Polaroid camera to have somebody take a picture of all of us by the waterfall, and Afra literally squealed! I don't think she had seen one before and I haven't ever seen somebody that excited about a Polaroid in my life. I honestly wanted to buy one for her on the spot.

Next, we drove to my second favorite place in Solvang. The first time I went to the tiny pony farm, I had a laughing fit so hard that I had tears streaming down my eyes. I didn't know that mini ponies existed and they were pretty much the cutest and funniest little dog sized horses ever! We took a few pictures of the ponies until it started pouring rain and we ran to the car.

We drove into the town, which is designed to look and feel like a small town in Denmark. There are flowers and wooden windmills everywhere, and the stores are filled with Christmas decorations, Danish deserts, and cafés. It was around lunch time and we were looking for food. As we were outside deciding where to go, a woman in black overalls abruptly stopped Angela on the sidewalk and asked her if she got her penguin sweater at modcloth, which she did. She spoke so fast that we didn't even know what was happening, and as she walked away we realized that she had said that she was the fashion director at Modcloth and she was excited to see somebody wearing the color mustard. Now, you may not know how big of a fan Angela is of Modcloth. If she could, she would probably buy out the store. After we fully comprehended what had just happened, and did a two minute Google search for pictures of the fashion director at Modcloth, we realized that we needed to find this woman and actually talk to her instead of staring at her blankly. Unfortunately, she had basically instantly disappeared as soon as she said the word mustard. Seani, Angela, Afra and I split up and frantically ran around the building looking for her, and within a minute, Afra spotted her behind the building crossing the street. We chased after her and let Angela have her moment! They talked a little about Angela's love for Modcloth, how they were opening up a store in LA, and she snapped a picture of the two of them and we parted ways.

We all got some lunch at a mediocre cafe, and got some desserts at a yummy bakery just before the town started closing down. The drive home was beautiful with on and off rain. We found a giant bridge to take more Polaroid pictures at, and headed home! It was a lovely day :)