Breaking the Guy Code

Some guys are going to be angry that I'm outing them and might try to deny everything, and some guys sincerely don't know they are doing this, they just have "guy talk". This is a real problem so I'm going to write about it anyway. My wife and I both work full time jobs and I'm still asked if my wife makes me dinner or cleans the apartment. Social norms seem to dictate cleaning, cooking, dishes, and laundry are just for women to do. If you've been keeping up with my blog, you should know that Angela and I are equal partners, we do everything together. When we go shopping I almost always pay, but somehow every time they always try to hand the receipt to my wife like its understood that it's her job.

When I was on Lulu there was an anonymous survey for guys asking them if they look at porn. Only 4% said that they don't look at porn. That means 96% do look at porn. 48% of those taking the survey said they look at porn every day. Three guys I know were talking and they were discussing that hookers were the way to go because you don't have to listen to the b**ching. One of them I believed to be happily married agreed that women are only good for "bedtime sports".

One guy I talked to recently said he has been out with 3 women and spent $300 and he "still has blue balls" and had he known that she wasn't going to put out, he would have just got a hooker but he's tired of having to get "checked every six months". At my last job all the guys would gather around and watch porn together. I would say 98% of all guys I've ever known don't respect their significant other at all the second they are out of hearing range. It pains me that most of the women these guys are with would say there's no way that their guy would do or be like that.. well I hope these guys are in the 2%....  But I know a lot of guys that fake an entire relationship simply for sex and laugh about it with their "bros". We all know a woman who either would or has faked a relationship for money. These women are called gold diggers and they are shamed, but there are a lot of guys out there that fake a relationship for sex. For some reason, it is not shamed at all.

I can't even fathom any of this and most of my friends can't either (most of my friends are female though). Angela is the most important person in my life and I'm tired of guys talking to me like she's a piece of meat. I'm tired of guys assuming all guys are the same that "every guy, no matter what he says, only looks at women for sex". I DON'T and I am tired of defending myself against my own gender. But it's worse for my wife because more often than not she's looked at as less than human. I can't understand this frame of mind and it disturbs me that it's so common. Please, I don't know how to change the world but I can beg for everyone to please think of women as the amazing people they are. If you have any suggestions on how to change this stigma, please comment below. I think that all we can do at this point is to raise awareness and not accept this kind of behavior as being normal.


UPDATE: This Blog was posted on Facebook and this is the response it was given. This guy pretty well proves my point...